Dating Insights & Advice

Expert matchmaking advice, dating tips, and stories from Matchmaker May.

Elegant Asian woman looking uncomfortable during a formal wedding reception date while a man smiles beside her, illustrating an awkward first date in a high-pressure setting

Pasadena Asian Matchmaker: A First Date Mistake to Avoid

November 4, 2016

Why Family Events and Weddings Are the Wrong Setting for a First Date As a matchmaker, I often see well-intentioned clients make decisions that unintentionally…

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Japanese woman at a café smiling while texting after a date, illustrating texting etiquette and modern dating communication

Texting Etiquette & Dating Japanese Women

November 2, 2016

Dating Japanese Women Tips One of the most common questions I receive after a first date is simple:“What should I text and when?” Texting has…

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He Hasn’t Asked Me Out Again Yet

October 31, 2016

Santa Monica Asian Matchmaker You had a lovely first date. Perhaps it was an evening at Third Street Promenade in Santa Monica. You walked past…

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Asian couple on a relaxed coffee date, smiling and getting to know each other in a warm, elegant café setting.

Picky Dater? Just Go For Coffee

October 28, 2016

One of the most common patterns I see, especially among thoughtful, intentional clients, is this: You are selective about who you want to build a…

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Chinese matchmaker providing image consulting by helping a client choose clothing in a modern boutique setting

Is It Time For A Makeover?

October 25, 2016

Chinese Matchmaker Can Provide Image Consulting One of the advantages of working with a Chinese matchmaker is that guidance extends beyond introductions. It often includes…

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Dating The Wrong One

October 21, 2016

“You won’t find the right one until you let go of the wrong one.” This is a simple quote, but in my experience as a…

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A refined romantic dinner scene featuring a Western man and an Asian woman sharing an intimate moment at an elegant outdoor restaurant, symbolizing a meaningful cross-cultural relationship and intentional matchmaking experience.

Japanese Matchmaker Seeking American Men

October 21, 2016

Japanese matchmaker and Chinese matchmaker affiliates From time to time, I work closely with trusted matchmaker partners overseas, including in Japan and Hong Kong. Through…

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Man appearing overly focused and indecisive during a dinner date while his partner looks disengaged, highlighting an awkward and unbalanced interaction.

Men Are Undesirable If They Do This

October 19, 2016

Best LA Matchmaker Gives Sound Advice Hello there, I want to share a few observations from recent client feedback, specifically, the small behaviors that quietly…

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Why Do Men Do This

October 17, 2016

There are two patterns I see often, and both can quietly derail what could have been a promising connection. The first is being overly physical…

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Asian woman thoughtfully reviewing and selecting printed personal photos on a table, curating lifestyle images for a dating profile in a bright, elegant home setting.

Posting Proper Dating Photos

October 10, 2016

One of the most common questions I receive is this: How do you show your true self in dating photos? The answer is simpler than…

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