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Men Seeking Women Overseas

May Hui Bugenhagen — Thu, 15 Jan 2026 05:39:43 +0000

For Men Open to a Serious Relationship Beyond U.S. Dating Apps

If you’re a man between 50 and 70 who is open to traveling, meeting women in person, and pursuing a real marriage, not endless texting or casual dating, you’re not alone.

Many men reach this stage of life wanting something different:

• A genuine partner, not a pen pal
• A woman who values commitment and family
• A relationship built on intention, not swiping

For men who are open to meeting women overseas, particularly in China, international matchmaking offers a purposeful and refreshing path forward.

Why Consider Meeting a Woman Overseas?

Women in China aged 40 to 60 who are open to relocation are often:

• Serious about marriage
• Emotionally mature and family-oriented
• Open to building a life in the United States
• Interested in meeting men who are stable, respectful, and intentional

Many of these women have children, life experience, and a clear vision for partnership. They are not looking to “date around”; they are looking for a husband and a future.

Travel With Purpose. Date With Clarity.

Traveling to meet a woman in person allows you to:

• Build real connections face-to-face
• Understand cultural values firsthand
• Avoid misunderstandings common in online dating
• Decide quickly if there is true compatibility

Men who are willing to travel often find the experience meaningful, eye-opening, and far more aligned with their long-term goals.

Who This Is For

This opportunity is ideal for men who:

• Are open to international dating and marriage
• Value loyalty, family, and partnership
• Are emotionally available and marriage-minded
• Are willing to travel to meet women in person
• Prefer a guided, private, and intentional process

You do not need to be flashy, wealthy, or have a “perfect” online profile. You simply need to be sincere, respectful, and serious about building a life with someone.

Work With a Trusted Matchmaker

At Two Asian Matchmakers, we work with American men who are open to meeting women overseas through a personalized, ethical, and highly selective matchmaking process.

We guide you step by step, ensuring clarity, compatibility, and mutual intent, so you’re not navigating international dating alone or blindly.

Take the First Step

If you’re open to exploring a serious relationship with a woman overseas and want professional guidance, we invite you to start a private conversation.

This is not about volume dating.
This is about one meaningful match, done the right way.

We can help with our extensive practical experience with U.S. visa categories, including F-1, J-1, B-1/B-2, and H-1B.

Inquire privately to see if this approach is right for you. Call May at (310) 867-0851 or email us at May@twoasianmatchmakers.com

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Love That Aligns With Your Culture, Values, and Goals

May Hui Bugenhagen — Sat, 25 Oct 2025 02:22:35 +0000

Asian Matchmaking for Professionals Who Want Real Connection

Let’s Be Honest, Nobody Needs a Matchmaker

You can meet people anywhere: at work, at the gym, through friends, or at your favorite boba shop if you linger long enough.

But my clients don’t hire me because they can’t meet people. They hire me because they’re done wasting time on surface-level dating and want meaningful, culturally compatible relationships.

Why Asian and Asian-American Professionals Choose Matchmaking

After 16 years of helping Asian singles across the U.S., I’ve learned that dating is different when culture, family, and expectations are part of the equation.

Many Asian and Asian-American professionals tell me:

“It’s hard to find someone who gets both my background and my mindset.”

They’re successful, family-oriented, and ambitious, but tired of ghosting, mixed signals, and “situationships.” They want meaningful relationships built on shared values and genuine connection.

That’s where professional Asian matchmaking changes everything.

Matchmaking Isn’t Desperation, It’s Smart Delegation

You already hire experts to save time and get results: your fitness coach, your CPA, your attorney, your mentor. Why not delegate your love life to someone who specializes in high-quality introductions?

At Two Asian Matchmakers, we combine personalized guidance with cultural understanding. We screen for shared values, family expectations, and long-term compatibility, things an app could never match.

Matchmaking is for people who want better results, not for people who “can’t do it on their own.”

Dating With Intention and Cultural Insight

Our clients are busy, emotionally intelligent professionals who are ready for intentional dating, the kind that respects tradition while embracing modern connection.

Whether you’re in Dallas, Los Angeles, San Francisco, or anywhere in the U.S., our mission is simple: help Asian singles meet partners who share their goals, values, and vision for the future.

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Dallas Singles Mixer

May Hui Bugenhagen — Fri, 17 Oct 2025 03:06:27 +0000

How to Flirt and Connect at a Dallas Singles Mixer

Join Cocktails & Connections for Dallas Singles Ages 35-55 on Sunday, October 19, 2:30–5 pm at Dua Trattoria in Frisco, the city’s most exciting singles event! Top Asian matchmaker Matchmaker May is hosting a singles mixer in the Dallas area. You don’t want to miss it. We are expecting at least 45 men and women so far.

Want to stand out? Smile, make eye contact, and start a fun conversation like, “What are you drinking?” Keep your phone down and your energy up; confidence is irresistible. Dress sharp, stay relaxed, and let sparks fly.

Women’s tickets and Men’s tickets available:

Eventbrite link:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/cocktails-and-connections-for-singles-ages-35-55-tickets-1704745261969?aff=oddtdtcreator

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Jewish Man Asian Woman Connections

May Bugenhagen — Fri, 29 Apr 2016 22:54:33 +0000

A Closer Look at Cross-Cultural Compatibility

In recent years, I’ve been asked more frequently about the dynamic in a Jewish man Asian woman relationship. It’s a topic that often comes up in conversations about modern dating, especially as more people begin to explore relationships outside of their immediate cultural circles.

From my experience working with clients over the years, this Jewish man Asian woman connection is not about trends or novelty. It is often rooted in something much more meaningful: shared values, mutual respect, and long-term compatibility.

Looking Beyond Assumptions in Jewish Man Asian Woman Relationships

There are many opinions online about why Jewish men may be drawn to Asian women. Some of these perspectives rely heavily on stereotypes, describing personality traits in overly simplified ways.

In practice, I have found that these assumptions rarely reflect reality.

The women in my network are diverse in personality, background, and life goals. Many are accomplished, independent, and thoughtful in how they approach relationships. Similarly, the men I work with are not simply looking for a “type”; they are looking for alignment.

At the end of the day, lasting relationships are not built on stereotypes. They are built on understanding.

Shared Values Often Matter More Than Background

What I consistently observe is that many Jewish men and Asian women naturally align in areas that are foundational to long-term relationships.

These often include:

• A strong emphasis on family
• Respect for tradition and upbringing
• A value placed on education and personal growth
• A long-term view of partnership and commitment

These qualities are not exclusive to any one culture, but when two individuals share them, it creates a strong starting point.

In matchmaking, this is what I prioritize: not surface-level traits, but deeper compatibility. I am professionally certified by the Matchmaking Institute, ensuring the highest ethical standards.

Why Cross-Cultural Dating Continues to Grow

Living in the United States offers a unique opportunity to meet people from a wide range of cultural backgrounds. Many of my clients are open-minded, globally aware, and interested in building relationships that reflect both shared values and new perspectives.

For some, that means exploring connections outside of what is familiar.

This doesn’t mean abandoning one’s own culture. Instead, it reflects a willingness to expand, to learn, and to meet someone who may complement them in unexpected ways.

At the same time, it is equally valid to prefer dating within your own background. The goal is not to follow a trend, but to find the environment where you are most likely to meet the right person. You can also read our Matchmaking FAQs to learn more.

A More Intentional Approach to Dating

What I often tell my clients is this:

Finding the right partner is not about limiting yourself, but about being intentional.

Whether someone is interested in cross-cultural dating or not, the process should be guided by clarity, knowing what matters most to you, what kind of relationship you want to build, and who aligns with that vision.

This is where matchmaking becomes valuable. Instead of navigating dating on your own, you are introduced to individuals who are already aligned in intention, values, and readiness.

Exploring Meaningful Connections

If you are open to meeting someone outside of your immediate social or cultural circle, this approach can create opportunities you may not encounter on your own.

At Two Asian Matchmakers, I facilitate thoughtful introductions between Jewish men and Asian women who are genuinely interested in building meaningful, long-term relationships. My network includes accomplished, relationship-minded individuals from a wide range of professional and cultural backgrounds.

If you are open to exploring cross-cultural dating, I invite you to take the next step.

For women, joining the network is complimentary and always handled with discretion. You can submit a private profile, and I will reach out when there is a strong, aligned match.

For men who are serious about finding a committed partner, you can schedule a private consultation to explore whether this process is the right fit for you.

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Asian Women Find These 2 Things Very Important

May Bugenhagen — Fri, 29 Apr 2016 22:32:44 +0000

When I speak with clients about dating Asian women, one question comes up often:

What truly matters to them?

While every individual is different, consistent patterns have emerged over my years as a matchmaker. Cultural values, upbringing, and long-term goals shape what Asian women look for in a man when they are serious about a partnership. Two qualities, in particular, stand out above the rest.

1. Education & Ambition: What Asian Women Look For in a Man

Education often reflects personal discipline, stability, and long-term thinking. For many Asian women and their families, a degree represents more than an academic title. It signals how a man approaches personal growth, financial responsibility, and his future.

If you possess a formal education, that background naturally becomes part of how you present yourself. If you took a self-made path by building a business or mastering a specialized skill, that carries equal weight when communicated clearly. What matters most is the drive behind your accomplishments.

During a first date, avoid treating your background like a résumé. Instead, share your journey, how you invest in yourself, what you have built, and where you are headed. That clarity creates genuine confidence for both of you.

Many women take great pride in partnering with a thoughtful, ambitious man. This commitment aligns with core cultural values they were raised to respect.

2. Family Values: Key Qualities What Asian Women Look For in a Man

Family plays a central role across many Asian cultures. These connections often extend far beyond the immediate household to include strong multi-generational bonds.

Because of this focus, women naturally notice how a man views his family, handles personal relationships, and accepts responsibility. You do not need a perfect family background to make a great impression. What truly counts is your active perspective.

• Do you value genuine connection?

• Respecting family dynamics is essential to you.

• Creating and protecting a long-term partnership feels natural.

These traits signal long-term compatibility. In addition, women often emphasize commitment, mutual support, and working through life challenges together. You can learn more about professional ethics in dating through the Matchmaking Institute. Loyalty and stability serve as foundational expectations for a lasting relationship.

A Final Thought

When you are dating with intention, it is not about trying to impress someone; it focuses on being understood. The men who achieve the best results can clearly express who they are, what they value, and where they are going. That clarity naturally attracts women who share your vision.

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Asian Men Dating Outside Of Their Race

May Bugenhagen — Wed, 30 Mar 2016 12:00:21 +0000

Navigating Interracial Dating for Asian Men

Over the years, I have worked with many Asian men who want to date outside of their race. Some men want to meet Latina women, some prefer Caucasian women, and others look for a kind, intelligent partner who shares their goals.

At the end of the day, dating is a numbers game regardless of race. Not every introduction turns into a relationship, and that is okay. Some matches naturally develop into a long-term partnership, while others simply are not the right fit. That is part of the process.

I always remind my clients that just because you do not see something often does not mean it is impossible.

Shifting Perspectives in Modern Dating

Many Asian men grow discouraged because they feel overlooked in modern dating culture. They assume non-Asian women are not interested in them. In reality, times are changing. More women today are open-minded, culturally curious, and interested in meeting Asian men than ever before. In fact, I have worked with Caucasian women who specifically preferred dating Asian men because they valued qualities like emotional stability, intelligence, ambition, and family orientation.

Confidence matters more than most people realize.

If you have experienced rejection before, especially in casual environments like bars or dating apps, try not to internalize it. Rejection happens to everyone in dating. You must continue putting yourself in environments where genuine connection is possible.

Why Professionals Partner With Matchmakers

This is one reason many professionals choose to work with a matchmaker. I screen for compatibility, mutual interest, lifestyle alignment, and relationship intentions before an introduction ever happens. Instead of spending endless hours swiping or approaching people who may not be open to you, the process becomes far more intentional and efficient.

The women in my network come from many professional backgrounds. Some work as nurses, teachers, attorneys, entrepreneurs, creatives, consultants, and executives. Most are educated, relationship-minded, and looking for something meaningful.

After years of matchmaking, I know that the person you truly connect with may not look like the exact version in your head. That is often a good thing because real compatibility goes deeper than a checklist.

Building Authentic Connections

Attraction still matters. Men are visual, which is why I always provide photos and a profile before arranging a date. There are no blind dates at Two Asian Matchmakers. I want both people to feel comfortable, excited, and genuinely interested before meeting.

The goal is never to force chemistry. We create the right environment for connection to happen naturally.

If you are an Asian man who wants to date outside of your race, do not give up on the process. Stay open-minded, build confidence, and keep putting yourself out there. The right relationship happens when you stop forcing outcomes and focus on meaningful compatibility.

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Asian Men Dating White Women

May Bugenhagen — Thu, 23 Apr 2015 12:00:18 +0000

Something interesting is happening in modern dating that I’ve been observing more closely over the years.

More Asian men are now open to dating white women, and more white women are open to dating Asian men.

And in many ways, this is not new. What’s changed is the level of openness, confidence, and intention behind it.

A shift that’s becoming more natural

In my work as a matchmaker since 2009, I’ve seen the dating landscape evolve significantly. Today, it’s increasingly common for Asian men to express interest in meeting women outside of their cultural background, including Caucasian women.

And I understand why.

The Asian men I work with are often educated, ambitious, emotionally grounded, and family-oriented. Many are at a stage in life where they are no longer interested in casual dating or surface-level connections. They are looking for alignment, someone they can build a life with.

Sometimes that connection is with an Asian woman. Sometimes it’s not.

And I always tell my clients the same thing: compatibility does not have a single cultural definition.

The outdated narrative is fading

For a long time, there were limiting stereotypes around Asian men in dating. But what I consistently see in my practice does not reflect that narrative.

The men I work with are often confident, accomplished, and emotionally available. They are leaders in their fields, entrepreneurs, professionals, and creatives. They bring stability and intentionality into relationships.

Because of that, I am not surprised when they are sought after by women from different backgrounds.

At one point, we even hosted a speed dating event specifically for Asian men and women who were open to interracial dating. It sold out quickly. More importantly, what stood out was the openness in the room. People were less focused on labels and more focused on connection.

That, to me, reflects where dating is heading.

What I am seeing with women

On the other side, I am also seeing more women, particularly white women, becoming genuinely open to dating Asian men.

And not as a novelty or exception, but as a real preference rooted in compatibility, shared values, and emotional maturity.

What used to feel like a “least common pairing” is now becoming part of a broader shift toward more intentional dating. Women are paying closer attention to qualities like stability, respect, emotional consistency, and long-term potential.

In many cases, they are stepping away from dating patterns that feel uncertain or inconsistent, and choosing something more grounded.

Breaking old assumptions

There are still myths that circulate about Asian men in dating. But those assumptions rarely hold up in real conversations or real relationships.

The men I work with are not defined by stereotypes. They are individuals with different personalities, strengths, and relationship goals, just like anyone else.

What matters most is not the category someone belongs to, but how two people align in values, communication, and life direction.

A more open dating landscape

What I find encouraging is that dating today is becoming less rigid.

People are less focused on “what is expected” and more focused on “what actually works for me.”

That shift creates space for more genuine connections across culture, background, and experience.

And in my work, that is ultimately the goal. Not to match based on assumptions, but to introduce people who are genuinely aligned.

If you are open to meeting the right person

Whether you are an Asian man curious about expanding your dating possibilities, or a woman open to meeting someone outside your usual type, the most important step is clarity.

Clarity about what you want. Clarity about who you are. And clarity about the kind of relationship you are ready for.

From there, everything becomes more intentional.

If you feel ready for that kind of approach, I would invite you to take the next step and connect with us.

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Asian Dating is Group Dating

May Bugenhagen — Thu, 09 Apr 2015 12:00:29 +0000

One thing I often tell my friends is that Asian group dating culture creates a softer, more comfortable way to meet someone new.

In many Asian social circles, people naturally move in groups. Friends introduce friends. Someone brings a girlfriend along. Another person invites a coworker or cousin to dinner. Because there is less pressure than a traditional date, meeting in groups feels light and engaging.

When I was single, my girlfriends would often set me up with someone new. I remember bringing a friend along, not because anything was wrong with the setup, but because it felt easier. Friends genuinely want the best for you, and group settings make introductions relaxed.

Understanding Asian Group Dating Culture

There is actually something very valuable about introductions through friends. Your friends already know your personality, lifestyle, habits, and preferences. Sometimes they notice compatibility you may overlook yourself.

That said, if you want friends to introduce you successfully, help them understand what matters most. For example, if you prefer tall men, understand why that matters to you. Maybe height makes you feel protected, or maybe you envision tall children. Clarity helps people make stronger introductions on your behalf.

The same applies to lifestyle, education, ambition, finances, family values, or personality traits. You should also understand your order of priorities.

Is emotional stability more important than appearance?

Is kindness more important than income?

Would you date someone who earns less if he is financially responsible and owns a home?

According to relationship research from the Matchmaking Institute, understanding your core values significantly improves long-term relationship compatibility.

Clarity and Values in Group Dating

One of the biggest mistakes in modern dating is creating long checklists without identifying what truly matters most. I always encourage clients to focus on their top three non-negotiables first.

If someone meets those core values, stay open-minded enough to explore the connection. Sometimes chemistry grows in unexpected ways.

And if meeting someone one-on-one feels intimidating, meeting in a group setting first is a great alternative. Group dinners, casual social gatherings, or introductions through mutual friends make dating feel lighter, more organic, and more enjoyable.

People often spend too much time trying to screen others out instead of finding reasons to connect. Not every introduction needs to carry enormous pressure. Sometimes the best relationships begin with simple curiosity, shared conversation, and being open to the experience.

At the end of the day, your friends can become wonderful matchmakers when they truly understand what you value, and when you allow space for connection to unfold naturally.

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Yellow Fever: Not A Bad Word

May Bugenhagen — Thu, 19 Mar 2015 12:00:27 +0000

A Conversation About Preference, Culture, and Intentional Dating

One topic that occasionally comes up in conversations around Asian dating is the phrase “yellow fever.” Over the years, I have noticed that many people feel hesitant about discussing attraction to Asian women because the term itself often carries a negative assumption.

However, in my experience as a professional matchmaker, attraction is usually much more nuanced than people make it out to be. We must explore how yellow fever in dating differs from authentic cultural appreciation and genuine chemistry.

People naturally gravitate toward certain qualities, lifestyles, personalities, and cultural dynamics. For instance, some men are drawn to women who share similar family values, communication styles, traditions, or outlooks on relationships. Similarly, others feel comfortable and connected within certain cultural environments because of past experiences, upbringing, or lifestyle compatibility. Therefore, that inclination does not automatically make the attraction inappropriate or insincere.

I work with many men who are genuinely relationship-minded and happen to be especially drawn to Asian women. Some have previously dated Asian women, while others lived or worked in Asia. In addition, some value family traditions, femininity, education, or cultural alignment. Others simply feel a natural connection and comfort within Asian culture.

Understanding Intentional Attraction Versus Fetishization

At the same time, I also work with Asian women who specifically prefer Western men, Asian men, or men from certain backgrounds. These choices often stem from lifestyle preferences, emotional compatibility, or long-term relationship goals. Naturally, preferences exist on all sides in modern dating.

What matters most is the intention behind the attraction. Indeed, there is a very big difference between appreciating someone’s culture, individuality, and shared values versus reducing someone to a stereotype.

Healthy relationships depend on mutual respect, emotional connection, chemistry, and genuine compatibility, rather than fantasy. Consequently, understanding yellow fever in dating helps singles distinguish between surface-level interest and lasting commitment.

At Two Asian Matchmakers, my focus has always been intentional introductions between people who are serious about building meaningful relationships.

Building Meaningful Relationships Beyond Surface Attractions

Many of the men I work with are accomplished professionals who are simply tired of dating apps, casual dating culture, and disconnected experiences. They are looking for something more grounded, personal, and aligned with the kind of relationship they ultimately want to build.

Over the years, I have built a large private network of Asian women across the United States and internationally. Every introduction is handled thoughtfully, discreetly, and with long-term compatibility in mind.

Furthermore, if I believe another matchmaker or service would better serve your goals, I am always happy to point you in the right direction. For example, you can learn more about professional industry standards at the Matchmaking Institute.

At the end of the day, attraction alone is never enough to sustain a partnership. Shared values, emotional maturity, clear communication, and genuine effort matter far more in creating a successful future together. That is the part of dating I care most about.

Dating In LA: Is Texting Harmful?

May Bugenhagen — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 04:27:17 +0000

When dating in LA, communication shapes almost everything.

It influences how attraction builds, how trust develops, and whether two people ever make it from a conversation to an actual relationship. I often tell my clients that while chemistry matters, communication is usually what determines whether a connection gains momentum or quietly fades away.

And in today’s modern culture, one of the biggest questions facing singles active in dating in LA is this:

Should you call… or text?

Modern dating has made texting incredibly convenient. It is fast, low-pressure, and easy to fit into a busy day. For many professionals in LA, balancing demanding careers, travel, meetings, and social obligations, sending a quick text can feel far more efficient than picking up the phone.

But convenience and connection are not always the same thing.

The Hidden Trap of Over-Texting While Dating in LA

One of the biggest patterns I see in modern dating is that texting often creates the illusion of progress without creating a genuine emotional connection. Two people can exchange messages for days or even weeks and still know very little about each other.

Before communication even begins, your first impression often comes from a dating profile. Taking time to understand what someone is presenting online can help you decide whether there is a genuine connection worth exploring.

That is part of the reason so many singles feel emotionally exhausted by dating in LA today.

Too much texting can create:

• mixed signals

• unnecessary overthinking

• delayed momentum

• emotional ambiguity

• unrealistic expectations before meeting in person

And in a city like Los Angeles, where people are already busy and distracted, endless texting can quietly replace actual dating.

Why Effort and Intentional Communication Matter

I understand why many men prefer texting initially. Reaching out by text can feel easier and less intimidating than making a call. Modern communication habits have also conditioned people to rely heavily on messaging for almost everything.

But when someone is genuinely interested in building a meaningful connection, effort still matters.

Many women tell me the same thing:

A thoughtful phone call feels more intentional.

It feels personal, confident, and present.

It communicates interest in a way that a quick text often cannot.

That does not mean texting is bad. Texting absolutely has its place in dating. It helps confirm plans, send quick updates, or let someone know you are running late.

The issue is when texting becomes a substitute for a real connection rather than a support for it.

The strongest relationships are usually built through:

• face-to-face interaction

• voice and tone

• shared experiences

• emotional presence

• intentional communication

Not through endless message threads.

Building Real Connections with Matchmaking

One of the reasons my clients appreciate matchmaking is that it removes much of the uncertainty and fatigue surrounding modern communication. Instead of spending weeks navigating inconsistent texting patterns or conversations that never lead anywhere, we focus on creating real introductions with mutual interest and clear intention behind them.

Once I introduce two people, the goal is simple:

Move toward an actual date and discover whether genuine chemistry exists in real life.

Transitioning smoothly from messaging to that first meeting requires focusing on real-world etiquette, which we break down in our insights on dating services, Los Angeles, and first date compatibility.

Because ultimately, no amount of texting can replace sitting across from someone, hearing their laughter, feeling their energy, and experiencing how naturally the conversation flows in person.

If you are dating in LA, my advice is simple:

Use texting as a tool, not as the relationship itself.

A message can open the door.

But real connection still happens face-to-face.

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