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Men Seeking Women Overseas

May Hui Bugenhagen — Thu, 15 Jan 2026 05:39:43 +0000

For Men Open to a Serious Relationship Beyond U.S. Dating Apps

If you’re a man between 50 and 70 who is open to traveling, meeting women in person, and pursuing a real marriage, not endless texting or casual dating, you’re not alone.

Many men reach this stage of life wanting something different:

• A genuine partner, not a pen pal
• A woman who values commitment and family
• A relationship built on intention, not swiping

For men who are open to meeting women overseas, particularly in China, international matchmaking offers a purposeful and refreshing path forward.

Why Consider Meeting a Woman Overseas?

Women in China aged 40 to 60 who are open to relocation are often:

• Serious about marriage
• Emotionally mature and family-oriented
• Open to building a life in the United States
• Interested in meeting men who are stable, respectful, and intentional

Many of these women have children, life experience, and a clear vision for partnership. They are not looking to “date around”; they are looking for a husband and a future.

Travel With Purpose. Date With Clarity.

Traveling to meet a woman in person allows you to:

• Build real connections face-to-face
• Understand cultural values firsthand
• Avoid misunderstandings common in online dating
• Decide quickly if there is true compatibility

Men who are willing to travel often find the experience meaningful, eye-opening, and far more aligned with their long-term goals.

Who This Is For

This opportunity is ideal for men who:

• Are open to international dating and marriage
• Value loyalty, family, and partnership
• Are emotionally available and marriage-minded
• Are willing to travel to meet women in person
• Prefer a guided, private, and intentional process

You do not need to be flashy, wealthy, or have a “perfect” online profile. You simply need to be sincere, respectful, and serious about building a life with someone.

Work With a Trusted Matchmaker

At Two Asian Matchmakers, we work with American men who are open to meeting women overseas through a personalized, ethical, and highly selective matchmaking process.

We guide you step by step, ensuring clarity, compatibility, and mutual intent, so you’re not navigating international dating alone or blindly.

Take the First Step

If you’re open to exploring a serious relationship with a woman overseas and want professional guidance, we invite you to start a private conversation.

This is not about volume dating.
This is about one meaningful match, done the right way.

We can help with our extensive practical experience with U.S. visa categories, including F-1, J-1, B-1/B-2, and H-1B.

Inquire privately to see if this approach is right for you. Call May at (310) 867-0851 or email us at May@twoasianmatchmakers.com

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Dallas Singles Mixer

May Hui Bugenhagen — Fri, 17 Oct 2025 03:06:27 +0000

How to Flirt and Connect at a Dallas Singles Mixer

Join Cocktails & Connections for Dallas Singles Ages 35-55 on Sunday, October 19, 2:30–5 pm at Dua Trattoria in Frisco, the city’s most exciting singles event! Top Asian matchmaker Matchmaker May is hosting a singles mixer in the Dallas area. You don’t want to miss it. We are expecting at least 45 men and women so far.

Want to stand out? Smile, make eye contact, and start a fun conversation like, “What are you drinking?” Keep your phone down and your energy up; confidence is irresistible. Dress sharp, stay relaxed, and let sparks fly.

Women’s tickets and Men’s tickets available:

Eventbrite link:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/cocktails-and-connections-for-singles-ages-35-55-tickets-1704745261969?aff=oddtdtcreator

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Meet The Beverly Hills Asian Matchmaker

May Bugenhagen — Wed, 02 Aug 2017 03:00:15 +0000

Many people ask how I began this work and what led me to build Two Asian Matchmakers. Like many meaningful journeys, it started with a simple realization: relationships deserve the same level of intention and care that we give to our careers, our health, and our future.

How My Journey Began

Before becoming a matchmaker, I worked in upper management at a Fortune 500 company. In December 2006, I made a decision that changed the course of my life. I stepped away from corporate leadership and began exploring the idea of starting a dating company.

At the time, I spent countless hours researching, reading books about entrepreneurs, and studying the dating industry. I even applied for positions at established dating companies, hoping to learn from within. When those opportunities didn’t materialize, I asked myself a different question:

Why work for someone else when I could build something of my own?

In 2007, I started my matchmaking company at my kitchen table in Los Angeles. It was a humble beginning, but it was fueled by curiosity, determination, and a genuine desire to help people find meaningful relationships.

I’ve always enjoyed connecting with others, listening to their stories, and understanding what truly matters to them. That natural inclination became the foundation of my work. Over time, I noticed an increasing number of men reaching out with a very specific request: they wanted to meet Asian women who shared their values, cultural appreciation, and long-term relationship goals.

That demand helped shape the direction of my business.

Building a Niche With Purpose

As the years passed, I developed a clear focus, serving men of all backgrounds across Los Angeles and throughout the United States who are seeking meaningful relationships with Asian women.

Today, our network has grown into one of the largest private communities of relationship-minded Asian women in the country. These women are accomplished, thoughtful, and serious about partnership. Many value family, personal growth, and long-term compatibility.

What began as a small idea has evolved into a lifelong passion.

Over the years, I have had the privilege of arranging introductions that led to committed relationships, engagements, marriages, and families. Watching those stories unfold remains one of the most rewarding parts of my work.

And it continues to motivate me every day.

Lessons From Building a Business

Starting a company, especially one centered on relationships, is never without challenges.

Like most entrepreneurs, I learned through experience, persistence, and sometimes trial and error. In the early years, I experimented with different marketing channels, partnerships, and strategies. Some worked well. Others did not.

One of the most valuable lessons I learned was the importance of protecting the integrity of the brand. Not every opportunity is the right opportunity. There were moments when I had to politely decline partnerships or events that didn’t align with our values or long-term vision.

That discipline helped shape the company into what it is today.

Another turning point came when I invested in professional guidance for my business. Hiring a coach provided clarity and perspective, allowing me to focus on the work that truly moves the business forward: serving clients, building relationships, and continuously improving our process.

I also learned an important lesson about value.

In the beginning, many entrepreneurs, myself included, underestimate the worth of their expertise. Over time, I came to understand that the time, discretion, and personalized attention we provide are meaningful investments in our clients’ lives.

That realization strengthened my commitment to delivering exceptional service.

What Makes Our Approach Different

My philosophy has always been simple:

Quality relationships require focused attention.

I do not believe in multitasking when it comes to matchmaking. Every client receives individualized care, thoughtful guidance, and honest feedback throughout the process.

When I work with a client, I take the time to understand:

• Their values
• Their lifestyle
• Their relationship goals
• Their long-term vision for partnership

From there, I carefully evaluate potential matches with a close and deliberate eye. Compatibility is never assumed; it is thoughtfully considered.

My role is to advocate for my clients, highlight their strengths, and introduce them to women who are genuinely aligned with their values and intentions.

Privacy is also a cornerstone of our work. Many of our clients are executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals who prefer discretion in their personal lives. I respect that completely. Every introduction is handled with confidentiality and care.

And when two people are ready to meet, my team and I take care of the details.

We coordinate schedules, select an appropriate venue, make reservations, and ensure the experience feels comfortable and seamless. This allows both individuals to focus on what matters most, the conversation and the connection.

Who We Serve Best

Our clients are typically successful professionals who value their time and want a more intentional approach to dating.

They have worked hard to build meaningful careers, maintain their health, and nurture strong relationships with family and friends. When it comes to finding a partner, they want the same level of thoughtfulness and efficiency.

The men we work with invest in the process, and the women in our network join at no cost when they are a strong match for one of our clients. This structure allows us to maintain a curated, high-quality environment for everyone involved.

One principle I remain deeply committed to is honesty.

If I believe I am not the right fit for someone, I will tell them directly and respectfully. Protecting trust is more important than signing a contract.

The Qualities That Matter Most in Matchmaking

People often ask what makes someone successful in this profession.

For me, the answer comes down to a few essential qualities:

Compassion. Empathy. Patience.

Every client arrives with a unique story: sometimes hopeful, sometimes discouraged, and often uncertain about what comes next. My role is to support them, guide them, and help them move forward with clarity and confidence.

At times, that means offering encouragement.

At other times, it means providing honest feedback, even when it is difficult to hear.

There is a balance between being supportive and being truthful. Both are necessary for growth and lasting relationships.

After each introduction, we provide thoughtful feedback to help our clients refine their approach and become more confident in the dating process. Over time, this guidance helps them build stronger connections and make better relationship decisions.

A Commitment That Continues

What began at a kitchen table in Los Angeles has grown into a trusted matchmaking service serving clients across the United States and internationally.

Yet the core mission remains the same:

To create meaningful introductions that lead to lasting relationships.

Every day, I am grateful for the opportunity to help people find companionship, partnership, and love. I remain committed to approaching this work with integrity, discretion, and care.

Contact Information

Website:

www.twoasianmatchmakers.com

Phone:

(310) 867-0851

Email:

may@twoasianmatchmakers.com

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Dating In LA: Is Texting Harmful?

May Bugenhagen — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 04:27:17 +0000

When dating in Los Angeles, communication shapes almost everything.

It influences how attraction builds, how trust develops, and whether two people ever make it from a conversation to an actual relationship. I often tell my clients that while chemistry matters, communication is usually what determines whether a connection gains momentum or quietly fades away.

And in today’s dating culture, one of the biggest communication questions is this:

Should you call… or text?

Modern dating has made texting incredibly convenient. It is fast, low-pressure, and easy to fit into a busy day. For many professionals in LA, balancing demanding careers, travel, meetings, and social obligations, sending a quick text can feel far more efficient than picking up the phone.

But convenience and connection are not always the same thing.

One of the biggest patterns I see in modern dating is that texting often creates the illusion of progress without creating a genuine emotional connection. Two people can exchange messages for days or even weeks and still know very little about each other.

Before communication even begins, your first impression often comes from a dating profile. Taking time to understand what someone is presenting online can help you decide whether there is a genuine connection worth exploring.

That is part of the reason so many singles feel emotionally exhausted by dating today.

Too much texting can create:

• mixed signals
• unnecessary overthinking
• delayed momentum
• emotional ambiguity
• unrealistic expectations before meeting in person

And in a city like Los Angeles, where people are already busy and distracted, endless texting can quietly replace actual dating.

I understand why many men prefer texting initially. Reaching out by text can feel easier and less intimidating than making a call. Modern communication habits have also conditioned people to rely heavily on messaging for almost everything.

But when someone is genuinely interested in building a meaningful connection, effort still matters.

Many women tell me the same thing:
A thoughtful phone call feels more intentional.

It feels personal.
Confident.
Present.

It communicates interest in a way that a quick text often cannot.

That does not mean texting is bad. Texting absolutely has its place in dating. It helps confirm plans, send quick updates, or let someone know you are running late.

The issue is when texting becomes a substitute for a real connection rather than a support for it.

The strongest relationships are usually built through:

• face-to-face interaction
• voice and tone
• shared experiences
• emotional presence
• intentional communication

Not through endless message threads.

One of the reasons my clients appreciate matchmaking is that it removes much of the uncertainty and fatigue surrounding modern communication. Instead of spending weeks navigating inconsistent texting patterns or conversations that never lead anywhere, we focus on creating real introductions with mutual interest and clear intention behind them.

Once I introduce two people, the goal is simple:

Move toward an actual date and discover whether genuine chemistry exists in real life.

Transitioning smoothly from messaging to that first meeting requires focusing on real-world etiquette, which we break down in our insights on dating services, Los Angeles, and first date compatibility.

Because ultimately, no amount of texting can replace sitting across from someone, hearing their laughter, feeling their energy, and experiencing how naturally the conversation flows in person.

If you are dating in LA, my advice is simple:

Use texting as a tool, not as the relationship itself.

A message can open the door.
But real connection still happens face-to-face.

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Why Men Choose To Date Asian Women

May Bugenhagen — Fri, 13 May 2011 16:52:20 +0000

One question I’ve been asked for years, at events, networking mixers, private consultations, and even casual dinners, is this:

“Why are so many men interested in dating Asian women?”

After working as a professional matchmaker since 2009, I’ve noticed this curiosity comes from many different kinds of men. Some are divorced and re-entering the dating world. Some are busy professionals who feel exhausted by dating apps. Others have traveled internationally, lived abroad, or feel drawn toward Asian culture and values.

At Two Asian Matchmakers, I work with both Asian and non-Asian men interested in building meaningful relationships with Asian women. Over the years, I’ve heard many thoughtful reasons why.

And while every individual is different, there are several themes that consistently come up in conversations with clients.

Shared Values and Relationship Intentions

Many men tell me they are looking for relationships that feel intentional, grounded, and family-oriented.

A lot of the Asian women in my network value:

• commitment
• emotional stability
• family connection
• education
• long-term partnership
• mutual support

That doesn’t mean every Asian woman shares the same outlook, of course not. But many clients appreciate meeting women who take relationships seriously and are genuinely interested in building a future together.

For professionals who are tired of casual dating culture, this can feel refreshing.

Cultural Appreciation and Compatibility

Some men are drawn to Asian women because they already feel connected to Asian culture.

Many have:

• traveled extensively in Asia
• worked internationally
• grew up in multicultural environments
• previously dated Asian women
• close friends or family in intercultural marriages

In many cases, they simply feel more aligned with certain cultural values and communication styles.

I’ve seen countless successful cross-cultural relationships built on curiosity, openness, and genuine respect for each other’s backgrounds.

Health-Conscious and Active Lifestyles

Another quality clients often mention is lifestyle compatibility.

Many Asian women prioritize:

• wellness
• healthy eating
• staying active
• skincare and self-care
• balance between career and personal life

For men who are health-conscious themselves, shared lifestyle habits can become an important part of long-term compatibility.

The strongest relationships are often built through the small, everyday things people value together.

Femininity, Warmth, and Partnership

One thing I hear frequently from clients is that many Asian women bring a sense of warmth, kindness, and partnership into relationships.

Some men feel modern dating has become overly transactional or emotionally disconnected. They’re looking for a relationship dynamic that feels supportive, calm, and collaborative.

Many Asian women appreciate emotionally mature men who are confident, intentional, and dependable. In return, many men appreciate women who are caring, thoughtful, and relationship-minded.

That mutual appreciation often creates strong chemistry.

Openness to Cross-Cultural Relationships

Interracial and intercultural relationships are far more common today than they were decades ago.

Many Asian women are open-minded about dating outside their ethnicity, especially when values, communication, lifestyle, and long-term goals align.

At the same time, many men are increasingly open to relationships that extend beyond their immediate social circles or cultural background.

The most successful couples I’ve worked with tend to share one important trait:

They approach each other with curiosity, respect, and emotional maturity.

It’s About More Than Appearance

While attraction is always part of dating, the men I work with are rarely looking for surface-level connections alone.

Most of my clients are successful professionals who want:

• a meaningful relationship
• emotional compatibility
• shared values
• genuine partnership
• long-term potential

They’re not interested in endless swiping or casual dating anymore. They want introductions with intention behind them.

That’s why personalized matchmaking continues to resonate with so many accomplished men today.

A More Intentional Way to Meet

At Two Asian Matchmakers, my role is not simply to arrange dates.

I help clients navigate modern dating with more clarity, efficiency, and support.

I personally get to know:

• your lifestyle
• relationship goals
• values
• communication style
• long-term vision

From there, I curate introductions with women who are genuinely aligned and interested in meeting someone for a serious relationship.

A more intentional dating experience built around curated introductions, real conversations, and meaningful connections.

Just thoughtful matchmaking designed around compatibility and connection.

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Los Angeles Asian Men Dating

May Bugenhagen — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 20:12:45 +0000

One question I’m often asked is who Los Angeles Asian men typically date.

Historically, many Asian men have dated within their own cultural background, while Asian women have often been more open to dating outside their race. However, dating patterns continue to evolve, especially in a diverse city like Los Angeles.

Today, I see more Asian men building relationships with women from a wide variety of backgrounds, including Caucasian, Latina, and Black women. As these relationships become more common, perceptions continue to shift, and more people become open to connections they may not have previously considered.

At the end of the day, meaningful relationships are built on compatibility, shared values, mutual respect, and genuine attraction, not assumptions about race or background.

Asian Men Dating and Common Stereotypes

Despite the progress that has been made, some outdated stereotypes about Asian men still exist.

For many years, popular media often portrayed Asian men as passive, socially awkward, overly academic, or lacking confidence. Others were limited to narrow roles such as martial arts experts or side characters.

In my experience, these stereotypes rarely reflect reality.

The Asian men I work with are often accomplished professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, doctors, engineers, and business owners. They are thoughtful, ambitious, family-oriented, and serious about building lasting relationships.

Unfortunately, stereotypes can sometimes influence how people view dating opportunities, which may create additional challenges for Asian men navigating the modern dating landscape.

Finding the Right Match

One of the reasons I founded Two Asian Matchmakers was to help people move beyond assumptions and focus on what truly matters: character, values, lifestyle compatibility, and relationship goals.

Many successful Asian men tell me they are frustrated with dating apps, unclear intentions, and introductions that never seem to lead anywhere meaningful. They are not looking for endless swiping or casual dating. They want to meet someone who is genuinely interested in building a committed relationship.

That is where personalized matchmaking can make a difference.

I take the time to understand each client’s personality, relationship goals, lifestyle, and preferences. From there, I make thoughtful introductions to women who are open to meeting relationship-minded men and who share similar values and long-term intentions.

We Advocate for Our Clients

My role goes beyond simply introducing two people.

I become an advocate for my clients throughout the process. I help create opportunities for meaningful connections, provide guidance when needed, and work to ensure each introduction is intentional and aligned.

Many women tell me they are looking for qualities such as kindness, emotional maturity, loyalty, ambition, strong family values, and a genuine desire for partnership. These are qualities I frequently see in the men I work with.

Whether a client is interested in dating Asian women or is open to meeting women from different cultural backgrounds, my focus is always the same: creating introductions with real long-term potential.

I am constantly meeting exceptional women and expanding my network to create opportunities for clients who are serious about finding the right relationship.

The right partner may not be someone you would naturally encounter through your daily routine, social circle, or dating app. Sometimes all it takes is one thoughtful introduction.

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Meeting Asian Women and Building Meaningful Connections

May Bugenhagen — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 22:03:12 +0000

When I work with men who are genuinely serious about finding a long-term partner, one of the first things I often emphasize is this: meaningful relationships don’t come from speed or an assumption; they come from patience, awareness, and cultural understanding.

Over the years, I’ve personally guided thousands of introductions between Western men and Asian women, and I’ve seen the same patterns show up again and again. The men who do well are not necessarily the most experienced daters; they are the ones who are open, respectful, and willing to understand differences rather than rush past them.

I want to share a few key areas I always encourage my clients to pay attention to when building a real connection.

Meeting Family and Friends

One thing that often surprises many Western men is how early family and friends may naturally become part of the connection.

In many Asian cultures, relationships are not experienced in isolation. The people closest to her often play an important role in shaping her perspective and sense of comfort in a relationship.

This is not something to feel pressured by; it’s something to understand.

When you do meet her friends or family, it’s less about performance and more about presence. I always advise clients to stay relaxed, be respectful, and simply show who they are. You don’t need to overthink it.

In many cases, this stage actually helps accelerate clarity. You get to see her in a more natural environment, and she gets to understand how you relate to the people who matter to her.

Handled well, these moments often create deeper trust much earlier in the process than traditional dating timelines.

Culture and Shared Understanding

Culture plays a much bigger role in relationships than most people initially realize.

Many of the women in our network are deeply connected to their cultural background, not just in terms of tradition, but in identity, values, and how they view relationships.

What I often encourage is simple: curiosity over assumption.

When you show genuine interest in her background, whether that’s through food, traditions, travel experiences, or family values, it communicates something very important: that you’re not just interested in dating her, but in understanding her world.

I’ve seen countless moments where something as simple as sharing a meal becomes a point of connection, not because of the food itself, but because of what it represents: openness, effort, and respect.

At the same time, it’s important to remember that “Asian women” are not one category. There are many cultures, perspectives, and personal preferences across different backgrounds, including Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, Filipino, and many more. Each connection is individual, and should always be treated that way.

The strongest relationships I see are never built on generalizations; they are built on attentiveness to the person in front of you.

Dating Customs and Early Connection Dynamics

In early-stage dating, expectations around pacing and behavior can vary depending on cultural background, personal values, and life experience.

What I usually advise is to approach the first few dates with intention and clarity.

Small gestures, such as being punctual, respectful in communication, and thoughtful in how you plan the date, often carry more weight than people realize. These are simple things, but they communicate consistency and reliability.

There are also moments where more traditional dating dynamics may naturally show up. In those cases, I always encourage men to act in a way that feels grounded and respectful rather than performative.

For example, taking initiative in planning a date or offering to handle the reservation is often appreciated because it shows consideration and leadership, not because of the gesture itself, but because of the intention behind it.

What matters most is not following a rigid set of rules, but being aware of how your actions are received and adjusting with maturity and awareness.

When both people feel respected and at ease, the foundation for something meaningful forms much more naturally.

A Final Thought

If there is one thing I’ve learned from over a decade of working in this space, it’s that successful relationships are rarely about “figuring someone out.” They are showing up with clarity, patience, and the willingness to understand someone beyond surface-level expectations.

When that happens, the connection tends to unfold in a much more natural and grounded way.

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