💕 How to Flirt and Connect at a Dallas Singles Mixer

Join Cocktails & Connections for Dallas Singles Ages 35-55 on Sunday, October 19, 2:30–5 pm at Dua Trattoria in Frisco, the city’s most exciting singles event! Top Asian matchmaker Matchmaker May is hosting a singles mixer in the Dallas area. You don’t want to miss it. We are expecting at least 45 men and women so far.

Want to stand out? Smile, make eye contact, and start a fun conversation like, “What are you drinking?” Keep your phone down and your energy up; confidence is irresistible. Dress sharp, stay relaxed, and let sparks fly.

Women’s tickets and Men’s tickets available:

Eventbrite link:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/cocktails-and-connections-for-singles-ages-35-55-tickets-1704745261969?aff=oddtdtcreator

Why Now is the Best Time to Find Love

Labor Day has passed, the days are getting shorter, and fall is officially here. As we head into the last few months of the year, many Asian singles start asking themselves:

👉 “What happened to my love life this year?”
👉 “Didn’t I promise myself that 2024 would be the year I found my person?”
👉 “Am I about to lose another year without meeting someone special?”

If that sounds like you, here’s the good news: it’s not too late. Fall is one of the best seasons for Asian dating — a fresh opportunity to meet Asian singles, focus on love, and create meaningful connections before the New Year, especially before Chinese New Year!

Why Fall is Perfect for Asian Singles to Find Love

Unlike the busy summer months, fall brings structure and routine back into our lives. People are more open to building relationships and preparing for the holidays with someone special. If you’re serious about finding love in Asian dating, now is the time to get started.

1. Make Space for Love in Your Life

Many Asian professionals think they’ll “make time” for dating once they meet the right person. But successful relationships require space to grow. If you’re serious about finding a partner, you may need to rearrange your schedule and make dating a real priority. Matchmaker May’s biggest pet peeve is when a single gives her a few day to date…but it’s two weeks out!

2. Get Clear on Your Dating Goals and Values

In Asian dating, cultural and family values often play a huge role. Ask yourself:

Clarity attracts compatibility. If you’re vague, you risk wasting time with partners who don’t share your vision.

3. Update Your Online Dating Profile

Most Asian singles are now online — but is your dating profile helping or hurting your chances?

A few small updates can make a huge difference in attracting the right Asian singles.

4. Recognize and Remove Dating Roadblocks

If dating hasn’t worked for you so far, it’s time to reflect:

By identifying these challenges, you’ll be better prepared for dating success this fall.

5. Go Where Like-Minded Asian Singles Are

Love is usually found where values align. If you value culture, family, or faith, spend time in those communities. If you love travel or adventure, join groups that share those interests. Whether through local cultural events, professional networking, or Asian matchmaking services, the key is to be intentional about where you invest your time.

6. Take Online Dating Seriously

Many Asian singles are hesitant about dating apps — but done right, they work. In fact, a large percentage of happy couples meet online. The key is strategy:

Done well, online Asian dating saves time and connects you with singles who want the same future.

7. Use Your “Connectors”

In Asian culture, friends and family often help with introductions. But for that to work, you need to be clear about what you’re looking for. Share your vision of your ideal partner — not just physical traits, but values, lifestyle, and relationship goals. This helps your network recognize potential matches you may have overlooked.

💡 Don’t Let Another Year Slip Away

Fall is the season of new beginnings — and it’s the perfect time to refresh your approach to dating. By creating space for love, updating your profile, and connecting with like-minded Asian singles, you can make this year the one you finally find your person.

👉 Ready to take your Asian dating journey seriously?
Work with us to refine your strategy, connect with quality Asian singles, and find the meaningful relationship you’ve been waiting for. If you are a woman and want to be part of Matchmaker May's database, fill out your profile here: https://twoasianmatchmakers.com/profile/

One of the advantages of working with a professional matchmaker is that you can focus on the experience of meeting someone new rather than managing the logistics.

There is no need to call your date to ask her out, coordinate schedules, or search for the right venue. Our team handles those details on your behalf.

Once we receive your availability, we coordinate with your match to find a time that works for both of you. We also research and select an appropriate venue for the meeting and take care of the reservation.

Our goal is to make the process simple, comfortable, and seamless so you can focus on getting to know each other.

Our Process in Four Steps:

1. We get to know you.

We take the time to understand your lifestyle, preferences, and relationship goals.

2. We introduce you to compatible matches.

You receive introductions to women who have already expressed interest in meeting you.

3. Meet and discover the connection.

Enjoy your date and see whether there is chemistry and compatibility.

4. Relax and enjoy the experience.

Focus on the conversation, the connection, and having a great time together.

May, I just wanted most of all to give you accolades for what a great job you have done for me in the past year or so.  As a busy professional, I don’t have time to go online and send messages to single women. I am tired when I come home from work. Delegating this part of my life was the best thing that has happened. You are a pleasure to deal with. We communicate regularly and you gave me just the kick in the pants to start dating again. I just wanted to make sure you knew how pleased I was with you and with your efforts on my behalf.~ Roger T., 60, Attorney, Orange County

When clients begin working with us, one of the most important things to understand is the nature of the process.

 

Our role is to introduce you to exceptional, relationship-minded women who are aligned with your values, lifestyle, and long-term intentions. These are women who have been thoughtfully selected and who have already expressed genuine interest in meeting you.

 

Many of our clients find a meaningful connection relatively early in the process, often within the first several introductions.

 

That said, matchmaking is a collaborative effort.

 

We facilitate the introduction, ensure alignment, and create the opportunity. What happens next depends on how you choose to engage.

 

A successful outcome requires presence, effort, and follow-through.

 

After a date, thoughtful communication matters. A simple message or call to express interest and continue the conversation can make a meaningful difference. When there is mutual interest, it’s important to take the lead in moving things forward.

 

Details matter.

 

If she mentioned enjoying a particular activity or place during your conversation, use that insight. Inviting her to something specific you discussed, whether it’s a hiking trail, a restaurant, or an experience, shows attentiveness and intention.

 

Clarity is equally important.

 

Rather than leaving plans open-ended, offer a clear time and place. A well-defined invitation creates something to look forward to and signals genuine interest.

 

Momentum plays a key role in building connections.

 

A first date should naturally lead to a second, and a second to a third, when there is alignment. Consistency and intentionality help create the foundation for something more meaningful.

 

Our goal is to provide you with high-quality introductions and a seamless experience. When paired with your initiative and engagement, it creates the conditions where real relationships can develop.

 

If you’re ready to approach dating with clarity, intention, and support, we invite you to take the next step.

 

Schedule a private consultation to explore whether our process is the right fit for you.

 
 

Japanese matchmaker and Chinese matchmaker affiliates

From time to time, I work closely with trusted matchmaker partners overseas, including in Japan and Hong Kong. Through these long-standing relationships, I’m introduced to exceptional women who are open to meeting relationship-minded men in the United States.

These women are not part of a general dating pool. They have been personally screened by my affiliate matchmakers, and I’m given a clear understanding of who they are, what they value, and the type of partner they’re genuinely seeking.

In these cases, the women are the clients, and my role is to thoughtfully introduce them to compatible men here in the U.S.

I take the time to speak with each gentleman personally before making any introductions. If there is alignment, I facilitate the connection at no cost to the male participant.

The women I’m currently working with are typically seeking men who are:

They are serious about finding a long-term partner and are open to relocating to the United States for the right relationship.

Most speak conversational English and are already familiar with Western culture. Many have studied, lived, or traveled in the U.S., Canada, or other English-speaking countries, and are comfortable navigating cross-cultural relationships.

This opportunity is best suited for men between the ages of 35 and 65 who are genuinely open to a long-distance relationship that can evolve into a committed partnership.

A Note on Travel Opportunities

For men who prefer to meet in person abroad, I also offer a more hands-on experience.

If you are open to traveling to Japan or Hong Kong, I can arrange a curated series of introductions during your visit. My team and I handle the vetting, scheduling, and logistics so you can focus entirely on the experience.

This option includes a service fee and is designed for those who want a more immersive and efficient way to meet potential partners.

How to Apply

If this resonates with you and you feel aligned with what I’ve described, I invite you to apply.

When completing your profile, please reference “CUPID ALERT” under “How did you hear about us?” so I can properly route your application.

If you’re a strong fit, I’ll be in touch to explore next steps.

There are many different personality types in the dating world. Some men are naturally outgoing, while others are more reserved, thoughtful, and introspective.

Over the years, I’ve found that men who are more introverted or shy often make exceptional partners. They tend to be grounded, loyal, and deeply intentional about relationships. Many are accomplished in their careers; engineers, entrepreneurs, consultants, and professionals who have invested years building a meaningful life.

At a certain point, however, success in business or career doesn’t automatically translate into success in dating.

For many of the men I work with, the challenge isn’t a lack of desire for a relationship. It’s the environment. Modern dating often rewards speed, volume, and surface-level interactions, things that don’t always align with a more thoughtful or reserved personality.

Apps can feel exhausting. Conversations can feel forced. And the process can quickly become discouraging.

This is where a more intentional approach makes a difference.

My role is to create a setting where you don’t have to compete for attention or navigate unclear intentions. I take the time to understand who you are, what you value, and what you’re truly looking for in a partner. From there, I introduce you to women who are aligned, not just in interests, but in mindset and long-term goals.

You don’t need to be the most outgoing person in the room to build a meaningful relationship. You simply need the right introduction, in the right environment, with the right support.

If you’re someone who has focused on building your career and is now ready to find a partner, and you’d prefer a more thoughtful, guided approach, I’d be happy to learn more about you.

When you choose to work with an Asian matchmaker, the experience is often more than you expect.

It’s not simply about meeting someone new. It’s about gaining clarity, about what you value, what you’re drawn to, and what kind of relationship you’re truly ready for.

If you’re specifically interested in dating an Asian partner, it’s important to work with someone who is deeply connected to that community. That doesn’t mean someone outside the culture cannot help, but in my experience, access and understanding matter. Relationships are shaped by culture, family dynamics, and shared values. Being immersed in that world allows me to make more thoughtful, aligned introductions.

So what does it actually feel like to work with an Asian matchmaker?

It begins with a conversation. I take the time to understand your background, your lifestyle, and what you’re looking for in a partner, not just on paper, but in real life. From there, I draw from a network I’ve built over many years, through personal connections, referrals, and long-standing relationships both in the United States and internationally.

I work with women in Los Angeles, across major U.S. cities, and through trusted matchmaker partners throughout Asia, including Hong Kong, Japan, and beyond. The world is more connected than ever, and many women today are open to building a relationship across cities or even countries when there is genuine compatibility.

It’s important to clarify something here.

The women in my network, both in the U.S. and abroad, are accomplished, independent, and intentional about relationships. They are not participating in anything transactional or superficial. Many have established careers, strong family values, and full lives of their own. Some are open to relocating for the right partner. Others prefer a partner who is open to travel or relocation. Every introduction is based on mutual interest, shared goals, and long-term compatibility.

When you work with me, you’re not browsing profiles or wondering who is real. There is no swiping, no uncertainty, and no guesswork.

Every introduction is intentional.

I personally vet each woman, understand her relationship goals, and confirm her interest before presenting a match. When there is alignment on both sides, my team and I handle the logistics, so you can focus on what actually matters: the experience of meeting someone and exploring the connection.

Behind the scenes, I’m also collaborating with a network of trusted matchmakers across different regions, expanding your access far beyond what you could reach on your own.

This is a curated, private, and highly personalized process.

And for many of my clients, it becomes not just a more efficient way to date, but a more meaningful one.

When I speak with newly single clients, one of the first things I often say is this:

You do not need to rush back into dating.

The singles will still be there.

In today’s culture, there’s pressure to “move on” quickly. People download dating apps immediately after a breakup, start swiping late at night, or try to distract themselves with attention from strangers before they’ve fully processed what just happened.

But in my experience as a matchmaker, that usually creates more confusion, not clarity.

If you are carrying unresolved emotions, ongoing conflict, or emotional exhaustion from a previous relationship, it becomes very difficult to build a healthy new connection.

I always encourage people to pause and reflect before jumping back into dating.

Ask yourself:

What did I learn from my last relationship?

What patterns do I no longer want to repeat?

What kind of partnership am I truly looking for now?

And perhaps most importantly:

Do I currently have the emotional space to welcome someone new into my life?

Sometimes the answer is yes.

Sometimes it is not yet.

There are certain situations where I gently advise clients to take a little more time before dating again.

For example:

If you and your ex are still arguing regularly or emotionally entangled, it may be difficult to show up fully present for someone new.

If your children are still processing the separation, it may be important to create emotional stability at home first.

If your schedule, responsibilities, or personal stress levels leave no room for connection, dating can quickly begin to feel overwhelming instead of enjoyable.

And if you are dating simply to avoid loneliness or distract yourself from pain, that usually leads to more disappointment later.

This does not mean something is wrong with you.

It simply means you may need time to recalibrate.

One of the biggest misconceptions about dating is that being “ready” means being perfect, confident, or completely healed.

That’s not true.

Being ready simply means you are emotionally available enough to build something healthy with another person.

Sometimes, having guidance during this process can help tremendously.

A thoughtful dating coach, therapist, or trusted advisor can provide perspective, accountability, and support as you navigate this next chapter. The key is finding someone whose philosophy aligns with your values and relationship goals.

I’ve found that the strongest relationships often begin when someone approaches dating with clarity instead of urgency.

Not from panic or pressure.

But from a genuine readiness to build something meaningful.

If you’re considering getting back out there, give yourself permission to slow down and be intentional.

The right relationship is not built through rushing.

It’s built through alignment, timing, emotional readiness, and mutual connection.

If you’ve been asking yourself, “How do I get a date?”

You’re definitely not alone.

Many of the successful professionals I speak with are kind, intelligent, relationship-minded people. They’ve built great careers, maintained healthy lifestyles, and genuinely want a meaningful relationship. Yet dating still feels frustrating, inconsistent, or surprisingly difficult.

Sometimes the challenge is simple: you’re not naturally putting yourself in environments where connection can happen.

If you’re shy, work long hours, have a smaller social circle, or mostly spend time at home, meeting someone organically becomes harder. Modern dating apps may offer endless options, but for many people, they also create emotional burnout and conversations that rarely lead to meaningful in-person connections.

That’s why I always encourage clients to become more intentional about creating opportunities to meet people.

You do not necessarily need to hire a matchmaker to improve your dating life. But you do need to participate in your own social and romantic life more actively.

One of the best things you can do is commit to getting out of your comfort zone consistently.

That may look like:

I often tell clients to set a simple goal: commit to one new social activity, networking event, or date each week.

Not because every outing will lead to “the one,” but because relationships tend to happen when you create momentum in your life.

And honestly, many people discover something surprising: the hardest part is usually just showing up.

I know there are many times I don’t feel like going somewhere either. But once I arrive, settle in, and start talking to people, I almost always end up enjoying myself. Connection often begins after we move past the initial resistance.

Your mindset also matters more than most people realize.

People are naturally drawn toward warmth, openness, confidence, curiosity, and positive energy. If your friends genuinely enjoy being around you, they’re far more likely to introduce you to someone special.

Sometimes dating is less about “finding” someone and more about becoming someone who is emotionally available, socially engaged, and open to new experiences.

If dating apps are exhausting you, take a step back and focus on real-life connections again. Spend less time swiping and more time participating in the world around you.

Meaningful relationships rarely come from isolation.

They come from conversation, community, shared experiences, and openness to possibility.

And if at some point you decide you’d like a more guided, intentional, and personalized approach to dating, matchmaking can help simplify the process and introduce you to people you may never have met otherwise.

But either way, the first step is the same:

Put yourself in the path of connection.

Small Turnoffs That Make a Big Difference

One thing I’ve learned after years of setting up introductions is this: attraction is often shaped by the small details.

Many men assume a first date is all about chemistry, appearance, or having the perfect conversation. But sometimes, what determines whether someone wants to see you again comes down to how comfortable and understood she felt sitting across from you.

Here are a few common turnoffs women have shared with me over the years, along with some simple adjustments that can make a much stronger first impression.

Interrupting Her Story

One of the fastest ways to disrupt a connection on a date is to interrupt her when she’s speaking.

Sometimes men do this because they’re excited, trying to relate, or attempting to show they understand. But when you jump in too quickly, finish her sentences, or paraphrase everything she says, it can unintentionally make her feel unheard.

A great date is not a performance. It’s a conversation.

Women often notice when a man is genuinely present, curious, and listening without trying to control the interaction. Let her finish her stories. Let moments breathe a little. Real connection happens when both people feel comfortable being themselves.

Less Cologne Is Usually Better

You do not need to announce your presence with fragrance.

In fact, one of the most common pieces of feedback I hear from women is when cologne is simply too strong. If someone can still smell it after you leave the room, it’s probably too much.

When in doubt, keep it subtle. Clean, fresh, and understated almost always makes a better impression than overpowering.

And honestly, if you’re unsure whether you’re wearing too much, it’s perfectly fine not to wear cologne at all.

Pay Attention to Grooming and Clothing

Women often notice details more than men do.

I once had a client who was otherwise very well-liked, but the woman mentioned his shirt smelled slightly musty when she sat close to him during the date. Another woman commented that her date wore so much hair product she could smell it throughout dinner.

These may sound minor, but first impressions are sensory experiences. The way you present yourself communicates attentiveness, self-awareness, and effort.

If your favorite “first date shirt” is several years old, it may be time for an update. Make sure your clothes are freshly cleaned, fit well, and feel current. The goal is not to look flashy, it’s to look polished, relaxed, and intentional.

The Goal Is Comfort, Not Perfection

I always tell my clients this: dating is not about becoming someone else.

These examples are not meant to criticize men or create anxiety around dating. Every woman is different, and no single piece of feedback applies universally. The purpose of feedback is simply to help you become more aware of how you’re being experienced on a date. Sometimes, even seemingly minor choices can shape the impression you leave and influence how comfortable your date feels during the interaction.

Often, the most attractive qualities are simple:

That’s what creates emotional connection.

If you’re feeling burned out by modern dating or frustrated by endless swiping and surface-level interactions, sometimes a little guidance and intentionality can make the process feel much easier.

At Two Asian Matchmakers, I work closely with clients to help them navigate dating with more clarity, confidence, and support. From first impressions to meaningful long-term relationships.