Speed Dating Los Angeles: Something You Should Try

March 31, 2011

Speed Dating Los Angeles:  I’m a virgin, a virgin speed dater, that is. 

I’ve never been to a Speed Dating Los Angeles event before. I’ve seen them in movies like Hitch, where people are chatting animatedly inside a dimly lit and romantic venue and rotating every 5 minutes after they hear the sound of a bell echo throughout the whole room.  But, I’ve never had the guts to register and attend one.

Speed Dating Los AngelesSpeed Dating Los Angeles:  I can fill 5 minutes of silence, right?

I thought about what I can talk about for 5 minutes at a Speed Dating Los Angeles event. So, that’s 2.5 minutes or 150 seconds for me.  I can do this!!  Is that really enough time to get to know someone? Interviews for jobs last at least 30 minutes, but even that isn’t enough time to really get to know someone, at least that’s what I think. After all, people will say one thing, but their actions will speak differently.


 Speed Dating Los Angeles:  It’s a rushed process but sometimes that’s all I need

The process of a Speed Dating Los Angeles event is obviously a rushed process. How many questions can I ask someone in less than 5 minutes? How long should responses be?  Unfortunately, every speed dater is just judging someone to see if they are worth getting to know more later.  I’m looking at the way he talks, his body language, and what is voice sounds like. If I want to see him again, I select him as a “Let’s Talk” candidate.  So, I just have to be nice, smile, and nod to make a good impression.


Speed Dating Los Angeles:  I think you should try it

So, you’ve never been to a Speed Dating Los Angeles event.  No worries, I’ll help you prepare for a Speed Dating Los Angeles event.  What questions should one ask? You’d have to select the type of questions carefully in order to get really significant info from the person you’re talking to. Of course, questions like where are you from and what do you do for a living get short, quick answers most of the time, but there are some questions I think deserve some thought. Practicing with a timer doesn’t hurt either J


Speed Dating Los Angeles:  My experience last night: 

A lot of thoughts were going through my head as I pulled up in front of the Warehouse Restaurant in Marina Del Rey, the location for the Speed Dating Los Angeles event. I headed towards the entrance as I gazed at the murky looking water with the brightly-colored koi fish swimming in it.

The place inside was dimly lit. I headed up the stairs and saw small tables each labeled with a number. Each table had two really big chairs with arm rests to accompany it. The chairs were so large, you wouldn’t be able to see a person’s head from behind unless they were basketball players like Lamar Odom.

I met a guy who was one of the participants for the event. He said he’s been speed dating for a while. I asked him what it was like. He said it was equivalent to picking up someone on a busy schedule, or someone who’s in line for coffee. I asked him about questions and responses and how much time one has for them, and he said the best thing to do was to just keep talking until time runs out. Telling someone about you at a speed dating event, he said, is like filling out a Facebook or match.com profile.  Good analogy.

Slowly, the participants started to come in. I saw some really cute girls and fairly decent guys sign in. They took their seats on the really big chairs. The person in charge of coordinating the event quickly went over the rules before they started. He grabbed his timer and told everyone to begin.

I was observing the participants from a distance, and to my surprise, it wasn’t really like speed dating scenes in the movies. Nobody was talking too loud or acting like fools. After five minutes, the coordinator would ring the bell and inform the people to switch seats. The speed daters jotted down notes on who they wanted to connect with again.

The event didn’t take more than an hour. After it was over, no one stayed for much longer to talk to some of the participants. I guess it was understood you don’t exchange into there and you just wait to get the email the next day on who was interested in you.  The women left in groups while the men walked out individually. The coordinator wrapped things up and left, too.

The Speed Dating Los Angeles event had a great turnout and it looked fun. It didn’t look painful at all.

Speed Dating Los Angeles Do’s and Don’ts:  Are you ready to try? 

Here are some questions that are acceptable to ask and some that are going to send your ‘date’ running for the hills: 

Good Speed Dating Los Angeles Questions:

  • Where are you from?
  • What was the best thing about growing up there?
  • What are two things you think make a relationship work?
  • What do you do for fun?
  • What do you do for work?
  • How do you spend your spare time?
  • What makes you laugh/cry?
  • How would a friend describe you?
  • What are you most proud of in your life?
  • Describe your perfect holiday.
  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  • If we got into an argument, how would you settle it?


Bad Speed Dating Los Angeles Questions:

  • Are you a U.S. citizen?
  • When you die, would you rather be buried or cremated?
  • Have you been to a lot of speed dating events?
  • How old are you?
  • Are you really that age?
  • Do you like being on top or bottom?
  • Have you ever committed a crime?
  • How many people have you slept with?
  • How much money do you make?
  • How many crazy exes do you have?
  • Would you have sex with me?
  • Do you mind my five cats?
  • Are those real?

Now that you’re armed with the right questions to ask (and know what not to ask), come to a speed dating Los Angeles event! Seats fill up fast so get your ticket now!