Asian Dating Services : Is there a “bamboo ceiling” in the dating world for Asian Men?
Asian dating services are often a miss when it comes to helping Asian guys who want to date non-Asian women. These services often assume that an Asian guy must be looking for an Asian woman! An Asian guy who is not attracted to just Asian women may find that he has hit a “bamboo ceiling”. It’s rare even in Los Angeles in the year 2016 to see Asian guys with a White, Latina, or Black woman. Yet more and more Asian guys are coming to our office saying they are are not attracted to just Asian or Asian at all. Online Asian dating services or apps or even other matchmakers are struggling to meet this rising demand. Let’s explore some common limitations and potentials.
Asian Dating Services: Limitations
Asian dating services where an Asian guy checks that he fits in the Asian box and other boxes that he wants to date White, Latina, Black, Middle Eastern, etc are limited to the few number of women who may pick him back. He is fighting the stereotype that Asian men don’t appear to be alpha-males, don’t have sex appeal, appear weak and nerdy, too traditional and don’t treat women well. Those are extremes but they are not good for the Asian men trying to market himself online dating or on dating apps unless he is that much taller or hotter than the next guy. Some dating services have limited skill sets or desires to go down this hard road and bust these damaging myths against Asian guys.
Asian Dating Services: Potentials
Asian dating services that have a hybrid model : both an existing database and recruiting for the client is the best bet for an Asian guy who wants to meet non-Asian women. Asian guys can benefit from having a professional advocate for them. Since women can’t get a feel for their sense of humor, see their confidence, or hear how they speak with an accent or not with an accent, it’s easier to have someone who is a fan tell the backstory. Let a pro who has spent time with your type of women and built a relationship then connect the stories and land you the interview, thus breaking through the dating “bamboo ceiling”. Not saying that Asian guys need a crutch because they can handle their own. But when it comes to relationships and fending off stereotypes, a personal touch and individual attention can make all the difference.